Where is the Rebuke from Black Women for Mila Adams?
A jury found former New England Patriots player Stefon Diggs not guilty of assault. His accuser, Mila Adams, contradicted herself so much while on the witness stand that the judge admonished her several times.
Two weeks ago, when we were in the throes of several high-profile murders of Black women by Black men during domestic violence incidents, Black women couldn’t contain themselves on social media. Black men were accused of hating Black women. We were told we don’t protect Black women. We were told that this is why high-profile Black women, such as former Vice President Kamala Harris, Supreme Court Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson, businesswoman Melody Hobson, and tennis icon Serena Williams, all married white men. The comments were untrue and hurtful to Black men as a whole, even though we often hide or suppress our pain. However, when Mila Adams, a former chef to NFL wide receiver Stefon Diggs, took the stand this week and lied for two days while falsely accusing this Black man of assault, there were no long diatribes on social media by Black women condemning her actions.
Adams told so many lies and refused to answer so many questions during her testimony that the judge in the case threatened to strike her entire testimony out. She played the nut-roll when lawyers for Diggs asked her basic questions during cross-examination about the case. She contradicted her testimony when she was presented with physical evidence, like text messages she sent to Diggs. She claimed she wasn’t paid properly when a financial audit entered into evidence showed not only was she paid, but she was overpaid in some cases.
Photo of Brian Bank’s false accuser, Wanetta Gibron in August of 2019 via X
Adams is a Black man’s worst nightmare: a woman who will lie about him in a court of law. Emmitt Till was savagely murdered because a woman lied about him disrespecting her. In April of 1998, former NBA players Juwan Howard and Chris Webber were falsely accused by a woman in Maryland of sexual assault at a party. The investigation, which lasted a month, found no credible evidence that any type of assault occurred. Howard sued the accuser and won a settlement of $1, but he regained his priceless reputation. In 2002, classmate Wanetta Gibson falsely accused Brian Banks, a talented high school football player, of rape and kidnapping. Nine years later, she recanted her story, and he was exonerated. By then he had already served five years in prison, lost a scholarship to play football at USC, and was deemed a sex offender by the courts. Gibson’s family received $1.5 million as part of a settlement agreement with the school district because she lied about being raped by Banks in a school hallway.
Which brings me back to Adams. She should absolutely face consequences, civil and criminal, for falsely accusing Stefon Diggs of assault. Perhaps most importantly to Black men, however, is how Black women on social media mostly refrained from aggressively admonishing what Adams did. I have over 5,000 followers on Twitter and nearly 700 Facebook friends. I saw few, if any, posts from Black women talking about this case. But last week, my timeline filled up with posts about the Klay Thompson–Megan Thee Stallion breakup, with most women backing Megan.
What are we doing here, “Sistahs?” If you won’t hold each other accountable, how can you expect us to respect what you have to say when you are trying to correct us for our bad decisions and morals?
A jury had no time for the crocodile tears being shed by Mila Adams during her testimony at the trial, of which they found Stefon Diggs not guilty. Photo by YouTube.
No Blackman worth a damn supported what those men did to their wives and domestic partners. No genuine man would resort to physical violence against his wife as a means of control, much less resort to murder. No real man would support another man treating a woman in that manner. Yet, when high-profile cases involving murderers Steven Bowen and Justin Fairfax were blasted by the media, your average Black dude took a hit and was indirectly accused of being a part of the problem. I will advocate and support Black women in whatever their positive efforts are until the day I die, but you can’t keep kicking me and other brothers in the balls when something tragic happens that was perpetuated by a Black man. When you do that, you become no different from our oppressors and the racist system we live under.
“The prosecution in the Stefon Diggs case never should have brought this case in the first place,” said Kristin Kay, a legal consultant and commentator with Benchslapped TV. “The fact it even survived probable cause review is embarrassing enough, but the prosecution’s closing argument made it even worse… Prosecutors are ethically obligated to seek justice, not merely to convict or push questionable cases to trial and hope jurors overlook glaring reliability issues. Cases should be built on credible evidence and proof beyond a reasonable doubt, not excuses for why the state’s own witness cannot withstand scrutiny. This prosecution was an embarrassment to the judicial system from start to finish and another reminder that absolute prosecutorial immunity leaves virtually no accountability when weak cases destroy reputations and lives.”
In 2023, Roda Osman went viral when she claimed a Black man threw a brick at her when she refused to give him her phone number. Dozens of other Black men who were present were criticized by tons of Black women for not helping Osman catch the culprit and inflict street justice. The men said they never saw an assault or another man on the crowded street with a brick. Turns out they were right because Osman made up the entire story. She had gotten into an altercation with an Uber driver over a fare and attacked him with an object, according to police. He responded by hitting her in the head with a frozen water bottle, which gave her a “pumpkin-head.”
The Texas mugshot of Roda Osman after she was arrested and charged with a felony for lying about an attack that she posted about on her Instagram page.
Osman’s friend launched a GoFundMe on her behalf, titled “Help Roda Recover.” It raised $42,000, which Osman immediately spent on trips to Jamaica and New York, along with restaurants and spas. She was later charged with and convicted of a felony for theft by deception. Along with restitution, she was ordered to spend 90 days in jail. As for the man she falsely accused of hitting her with a brick, Olan Douglas, he was pleased she was convicted but said the experience left a bitter taste in his mouth.
“She kind of made the couple months that happened in my life a living hell,” he told The Root in October of 2025. “I wish that the crowd of people that was with her at the beginning would show themselves now,” he said. “Where are they at? Are they still supporting?”
I am asking the same question to myself about Black women who refuse to publicly admonish Adams.